Self-Confidence is a fundamental component of success and happiness. Here are three simple steps to boosting your confidence.
I hate reading articles that claim three steps to anything. Life simply isn’t like that. It’s a long and complicated journey of learning and growth.
I nevertheless decided to challenge myself to come up with three simple steps to boosting confidence that you can implement anytime, anywhere. I use these personally, and with all my individual clients, and many of them have transformed their lives!
Identify Your Top 3 Strengths
Too often, loss of confidence leaves us feeling that we’re losers. Not true. Even Olympians have temporary slumps in confidence. When they remember the strengths that got them to the top of their game, they have a good chance of regaining their mojo.
Write a list, each morning and again in the evening of the 3 things you are most proud. Do this for a week … or if its urgent, just go with the first 3 that you come up with! It might be your intellect, or your sense of humor, or your sense of determination. These are the three things somebody who knows you well would probably identify, and you’re proud of each one. At the end of the week, look back and choose the 3 that come up most often.
… Focusing on your strengths boosts your overall sense of self-value!
Be Thankful for Your Strengths
Think deeply about your “top 3” and appreciate the profound consequences of each. If you choose your sense of humor, for example, think about how it brings joy and light into the lives of your friends and family. Think about how their laughs and smiles elevate your own mood.
I advise my clients to take long walks. Especially when you’re being hard on yourself, or feeling down, get into the habit of “gratitude musings”. As you walk, go through your top 3 assets one-by-one. Hold each one in your mind, one at a time. First start with just the word. Say it over and over again. Then define what it means to you. Then describe what it does for you … the many magnificent moments it has earned you. Then describe what your gist does for others … the many wonderful ways you have touched the lives of others with this gift.
When you truly appreciate the value of each of your top assets, your step will lighten, and the clouds will lift.
… Gratitude is a powerful force for boosting self-confidence!
Flood your Brain with Positivity
Our brains are constructed along a simple, but powerful vertical axis.
At the base of our brain, the primitive reptilian brain ensures our survival. It speaks the language of fear. Above that, our emotional brain ensures connection with our fellow human beings, by regulating our feelings. Above that is the gray matter, responsible for thought and reason.
All three parts of our brain have a voice.
If you’re low in self-confidence, then the voice of fear is dominant.
Mother Nature designed us to have control over brain. We can control our thoughts, and to a lesser extent, our feelings.
To dilute the voice of fear, flood your head with positive thoughts and emotions. This is a powerful way to boost your confidence. Use mantras, motivating words and images, remember your many victories. All of these infuse positivity into your cognitive brain.
… Positive thoughts drive confidence!
Please try these 3 powerful steps, and let me know how they work?