Be Who You Want to Be

We need to get out of our own way. Only we stand between our current reality and our future desires. Think about it…

Do you want to be happy? I bet you do. I want to be happy, and every one of my clients does, too.

Who is stopping you?

The truth is, nobody is stopping you.

If you want to be happy, be happy.

If you want to laugh, then laugh.

If you want to be adventurous, be adventurous.

If you want to be creative, be creative.

If you want to be calm, be calm.

Who is stopping you?

Throughout our lives, we acquire reasons to act in ways that oppose our deep desires. We gain something by being sad, angry, cautious, chaotic, frenzied, or needy.

For example, many of my CEO clients are addicted to their work. Despite their profound desire for peace and calm, their lives seem to explode each day into feverish activity. They feel such activity has brought them success, but many of them also bemoan children who have grown up, or even grown away, as they themselves fought their way to professional victory.

Or, consider the sad little boy who used his melancholy to gain the attention he so desperately needed when he was growing up. Perhaps he was the child of parents addicted to busyness. Either way, sadness served his purposes well. But it has now lasted into adulthood, and he can’t escape its devastating grasp on his life.

Being sad, angry, cautious, chaotic, frenzied, and needy has side effects. They might get us to our short-term goals, but those states lack the enduring power to illuminate our journey to more meaningful destinations.

Worse still, they entrap us. We become stuck in rigid mindsets that keep us from achieving the happiness we so desperately desire.

I work closely with individual clients to understand the origins and motives of enduring mindsets that keep them from their goals. We learn to unravel hard-wired behavior patterns that once secured their short-term survival. These courageous women and men liberate themselves from the bondage of deeply entrenched survival mindsets to find the lasting clarity and joy they deserve.

But I sometimes think we make things too complicated.

If you want to be happy…then just be happy!

Nobody is stopping you but you.

Dr. Roddy Carter, MD, has over 30 years of experience working across a range of medical disciplines and corporate settings. 

At the height of his successful career, Roddy experienced a personal health and happiness awakening. During this profoundly transformative time, he began applying his deep knowledge of performance neuroscience to his everyday life. He discovered that, in moments of stress, the brain develops intricate psycho-protective adaptations to ensure our short-term survival; however, these adaptations often impose substantial residual limitations, create profound (and often hidden) distress, and prevent us from reaching our innate potential.

Today, Roddy is an executive coach and author dedicated to helping others unlock their full potential throughout their lives by applying compassionate neuroscience and sharing his unique approach to Personal Mastery™.

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