Free Yourself from This Destructive Mindset

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Most of us limit our own success. We become trapped by primitive mindsets that enabled our ancestors to fight the dinosaurs but have no place in a world of abundance.

Once upon a time, our existence was little more than a desperate struggle for survival.

Homo Sapiens was not yet born. We were little more than animals. To be honest, we were biologically indistinguishable from the rest of the animal kingdom.

To endure the threats of a savage planet, where only the strongest survived, Mother Nature built us a powerful brain. This massive evolutionary advance enabled our predecessors to live long enough to reach sexual maturity so they could procreate and perpetuate the species.

Our primitive brain was fueled by fear, and the primal knowledge that we simply had to win. Losing was a bleak alternative.

This earliest gift enabled its owner to fight, take flight, or to remain silent and immobile to evade detection.

It worked!

It worked so well, in fact, that these early ancestors began a 60-million-year journey towards today. Thanks to this polarized win-lose mindset, you are now living comfortably as a modern man or woman in the 21st century!

But something changed!

The profound, but subtle change has been noticed by some of the world’s most powerful thinkers. Rudyard Kipling, the 19thcentury English writer born in India and most famous for his collection of stories that are united in his timelessly popular “The Jungle Book”, reveals his insight in these two lines from his well-known poem “If”.

“If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

and treat those two impostors just the same”

… then …

“Yours is the Earth and everything that is in it.”

Surprisingly, in these two lines of this poem, he dismisses the very instinct that enabled our ancestors to survive. Almost contemptuously, he labels victory and defeat as imposters! They are unwelcome intruders and keep us from achieving our dreams.

As I heard these two lines again earlier today, I was reminded of so many of my clients.

The 27-year-old millionaire who is desperately unhappy as he heads off in search of the next million (which, by the way, he seems to understand will not make him happy; yet, he pursues it nevertheless). The 54-year-old who has not achieved a day of fulfillment beyond her retirement as an international endurance athlete 26 years ago. The 43-year-old breadwinner who has been crippled by his belief that his retrenchment proves he is a failure. The couple in their late thirties who fight incessantly because they believe that if they do not win each argument, they will lose!

We no longer need these deep survival instincts, yet they persist with disastrous consequences. The prevailing concepts of Triumph and Disaster are redundant and harmful.

More than this, the two bookends of Triumph and Disaster insert themselves prematurely on the continuum of possibility. When we achieve a victory, there is always something bigger and better we could have achieved. Indeed, when we fail, there is always a greater failure we could contemplate; a greater depth we could reach.

The concepts of Triumph and Disaster grossly limit our potential.

So, what happened on the course of this multi-million-year journey that makes winning and losing such a restrictive concept?

Mother Nature was busy.

She continued to build on the powerful primitive brain that ensured our survival. She gifted us first with emotion, then cognition. Finally, with her greatest gift, she elevates us above all other living creatures. Our prefrontal cortex offers us awareness of our awareness, empowering us with personal mastery (if we choose to embrace it).

Using your full brain, you will recognize that both Triumph and Defeat are limiting and destructive illusions. If you realize this, you are now in a position to realize your highest potential. You become UNSTOPPABLE.

It is true that, on very rare occasions, we still need to fight for our physical survival. My advice is not to worry about this. These skills and instincts are so deeply entrenched within our immense brains that they need little training. You won’t lose this competence by focussing on higher functions.

For your complete success, focus on the “new” skills we have acquired as a species. Find the stillness of your prefrontal cortex, and contemplate all the forces affecting our present moment … including fears, feelings and thoughts. Then, and not before then, we rise above the ruthless grip of fear, and become masters of our own destiny.

What will you do today to ensure you realize your immense potential?

How will you reject the limits induced by fear?

How will you learn to use your greatest gift, your full brain, to become UNSTOPPABLE?

The poem ends with a massive, irresistible promise. “Yours is the Earth, and everything that is in it”. Kipling drops this tantalizing hope at the end of a long list of challenging preconditions. If you do this, and that, and the next thing … then … you can have anything you want!!

Wishing you “the Earth, and everything that is in it”.

Have fun,


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With deep gratitude to Alia, the beautiful yoga instructor who challenged us with these two lines in class this morning!

Dr. Roddy Carter, MD, has over 30 years of experience working across a range of medical disciplines and corporate settings. 

At the height of his successful career, Roddy experienced his own health and happiness crisis. During this profoundly transformative time, he began applying his deep knowledge of performance neuroscience to his everyday life. He discovered that, in moments of trauma, the brain develops intricate psycho-protective adaptations to ensure our short-term survival; however, these adaptations often impose substantial residual limitations, create distress, and prevent us from reaching our full innate potential. 

Today, Roddy is an author and executive coach dedicated to helping others unlock their full potential by applying compassionate neuroscience and sharing his unique approach to Personal Mastery™. 

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